Reasons To Wait

Top 40 (plus 1)!

submitted by youth

  1. I’d rather say no to my boyfriend than “Yes, I’m pregnant” to my parents.
  2. To avoid STDs.
  3. I don’t want to feel guilty.
  4. I don’t want the reputation of being someone that people date because they expect to have sex.
  5. I would disappoint my parents.
  6. I might lose respect for the other person, he or she might lose respect for me, and I might lose respect for myself.
  7. Sex is better in a secure, loving marriage relationship.
  8. The thought of having an abortion scares me to death.
  9. Sex gets in the way of real intimate communication.
  10. Sexual relationships are a lot harder to break up even when you know you should.
  11. I’m afraid it may ruin a good relationship rather than make it better.
  12. There are better ways to get someone to like you.
  13. You won’t have to worry about birth control side effects.
  14. I’m not emotionally ready for that intense of a relationship.
  15. I could become scared of my partner.
  16. I don’t want to hurt someone I really care about.
  17. Sex could become the central focus of the relationship, like an addiction.  At that point it is no longer a meaningful relationship, but we are using each other to satisfy sexual desires.
  18. You begin to compare sexual experiences, leading to lots of disappointments.
  19. I don’t want to make myself vulnerable to being used or abused sexually.
  20. If I’m hurt too many times, I might miss out on something great because I’m so afraid of being hurt again.
  21. I like my freedom too much.  Sexual relationships are binding.
  22. I’m only sixteen.
  23. I’m proud of my virginity, and I want to stay that way.
  24. Building a relationship in other ways is more important.
  25. I don’t want to risk becoming someone’s sex object.
  26. I want my first experience to be a good one with someone who won’t laugh at me, reject me, or tell lies about me, and who I know will always be there tomorrow.
  27. It’s possible to enjoy ourselves without getting sexually intimate.
  28. Why rush into something that could be lousy or mediocre now, when it could be great later?
  29. I don’t want sex to lose meaning and value so that I feel “sexually bankrupt.”
  30. I am afraid that at this age it might not meet my expectations, and I will be seriously disappointed.
  31. I don’t want to risk ending a relationship by our hating each other because of it.
  32. I might find it painful and the other person rough and uncaring.
  33. I don’t want the boy to brag about scoring with me.
  34. It’s the safest way not to become pregnant.
  35. You may feel invaded, and you can’t take it back after it’s happened.
  36. You may have to grow up too fast and too soon.
  37. Sex may become the only thing that keeps the relationship together.
  38. You may have sex too early to really enjoy or understand it.
  39. You lose the chance to experience the “first time” with someone who really cares for you.
  40. I want my most intimate physical relationship to be with the one I marry.
  41. Sex brings feelings of jealousy, envy, and possessiveness.  Every relationship changes.

(contributed by the Foundation for Thought and Ethics)