Saturday, September 15, 2007
My friend and her boyfriend are starting to sleep in the same bed together now…..they are not having sex just sleeping in the same bed…is that ok?
Melissa, age 15
As I’m sure you know, the decisions we make today directly impact our tomorrow. I would urge your friend to carefully consider her actions and the motives behind them. Obviously, ClubAC talks all about the importance of good decisions and abstinence. Consider the fact that abstinence allows you to concentrate on your future. There are some negative consequences from premarital sex that you don’t even have to think about if you are abstinent. That brings great freedom!
For the sake of argument, I’ll assume your friend wants to remain a virgin but just wants to ‘sleep’ with her boyfriend. We’ll even give him the benefit of the doubt on that (but believe me, there is doubt!). WHY would she put herself in a situation where a mistake could be incredibly costly, even deadly, to her future? If you play with fire…well, you know the rest!
We talk a lot about character on the site. Here’s some traits that I think are relavent to this situation. Your friend might want to think about these:
Discretion vs. Simplemindedness
Recognizing and avoiding words, actions, and attitudes that could bring undesirable consequences.
Virtue vs. Impurity
The moral excellence evident in my life as I consistently do what is right.
Wisdom vs. Foolishness
Seeing and responding to life situations from a perspective that transcends my current circumstances.